In defense of a few good men.
Moments ago, I finished reading an extensively descriptive article about 2 different women of this country. One experimenting, the other, being experimented on. The former is on a quest of dating 50 men and the latter on the whims of a distrustful father is opting for an arranged marriage.
I have heard, read and spoken about innumerable such stories looking at the way things are and could be, however, from the perspective of a woman. Surprisingly, I haven`t come across a single male-centric article on the issue. So I wondered and asked around other fellow gentlemen why, the answers I got were
- · We are men, we watch football and drink beer (I`d personally prefer whisky and when the woman on me awakens she asks for espresso vodka – (not being sexist))
- · I don`t understand what you are talking about – is this got to do with the new playboy edition
- · If I do write about something like this, a feminist will take a single line out of context and screw my life and probably my writing career – they are too touchy about it (rightly so) – but it is hard to write it in a politically correct way – that we do CARE – at least some of us do
I take up the mantle, not more than 5 people are gonna read this, but well, I have to write.
Having spoken to and being in the community of men, I have heard disappointing, blood-boiling, funny, fresh, down-right dumb etc tales on what women are for men, and the broader issue of marriage (the licence to have sex). (Right now, I think, a marriage, is an idea who`s time has gone, we need to move on and as a civilization look for something beyond – never mind about that now)
But let me tell you, there is an increase in these new breed of men, who think and want to move beyond definition – but are fearful at the backlash of the community, at the stereotype we men are supposed to follow and to add not many women are accommodating that. Personally, I just know handfuls who acknowledge it.
What stereotype? the one with man who`s got a swim-suit body and who`s just out of the gym, the raw bull, the beer guzzling – yelling out loud, unaccommodating yet chivalrous, the smart yet cute, the workman who fixes mechanical instruments (magically) and to top it all knows all that is to know about a computer hardware/software/patches/programs/tools everything – you the get the idea. And the one I personally hate – is the idea of a man who constantly has to sing and dance and crack jokes just to let the woman not be bored. So here`s to all those men – who do all this, not out of heart – but just to “fit in” –
“Get a life !!”
We are not born as your play toys, we are not nothing if we do not have a fat bank balance, we are not as Tyler puts it right – the all singing all dancing crap of this world, if we admire how beautiful you look – don’t hate us, if we ask you out – don`t call us perverts, if we read and have fat bellys don`t call us undesirable or shabby.
Indian men socially, are as fucked up as women – just because they have to :
- · Study hard, get good grades so they are deemed intelligent
- · + get a fat bank account, keep looking decent, belly tucked in - to marry a girl (the thot disgusts me)
- · Fight/compete with I don`t know – a billion other men to get a good job to accomplish all this
- · Get a house for themselves (look at the real estate prices) and then plan to settle down (and die)
- Let me tell you, its not easy being a man in this country, and to be a good man its increasingly difficult and improbable. I`m not saying have pity on us, nor am I saying we`re more anguished than you women. All I’m saying is we are almost as screwed up as you, we hate all the dogma`s that tie both the man and the woman down and we have to live up to the shallow ideals just like you women do
So don`t hate us, don`t hate the guy who just looked at you and smiled, smile back at him and make his day for what it`s worth.
The time to wake up from this sordid dream, I believe has come. To be unbound, unchained and to pursue, chase, follow, run, swim – to do and be impulsive at every passing second, be it man, woman, child.
The idea is to be, just, be.
He for she for as much as she for he.
**I`d want to be a woman in the next run, just to see how things turn out.
Enough said.
hdk
PS:
THE APOLOGY
Having said all that above, to add to it – I apologize.
- I apologize for that piece of shit who made you think twice before wearing that beautiful dress
- I apologize for the men who don`t make you feel safe on the roads
- I apologize for men who look at you the wrong way
- I apologize for men who say "she has good boobs, i`ll marry her !!" , when they say they want to marry just to have a licence to have sex
- Not being the white knight – but those are due to`s for which this note saw the light of day, else i`d be reading Kafka – so I hate them as much as you do.
